I help women who struggle with their mental health to become stronger than their mind. I take women from feeling like their mind and moods control them. To feeling empowered, confident and in control of their moods and emotions.
I am real talking and honest and have a real no nonsense approach. But I also have a wicked sense of humour and make light of most situations and find the funny side. I will push you and make you dig deep; to reveal your true self. To reveal the confident part of you that is ready to come out, she just needs some support and help to get there.
I know that as a woman, and especially a woman with a family, we can worry about the impact our mental health and our moods, can have on them. I am here to show you that you can be the one in control of your mental health!
“To help women who suffer with mental health to become stronger than their mind.”
I studied and trained as a person centred counsellor and was set on a career of helping others who had been through a difficult childhood.
But, during my studies, I realised many of my own wombs from my childhood where wide open. Unable to deal with them, I did the worse thing possible. I tried to put a lid on them and pretend nothing was going on. I was also trapped in a very unhealthy and mentally abusive relationship with an extremely possessive partner. I was 18 and already had a son with him. I stayed in this lie, this unhealthy place for many years. Going on to have two more children and creating a lot more wombs.
But I am so proud that with three young children, no career just certificates. I left my ex and had no idea what to do or who I was. I didn’t know what it was like to have freedom, of any sort.
I somehow ended up doing a law degree. I think this was my way of trying to show the world that despite being a very young, single mum to three children. That I could cope, and that I could make them proud and be a respectable member of society. I was doing well, I was on par to get a 1st class honours degree and was even already on the masters course due to my high grades. I was half way through my 3rd year and I was keeping that lid on things, or so I thought.
Of course, the lid came off like a pressure cooker exploding. I suddenly realised I was suffering, badly from mental health. I attempted to take my own life (and tried again several more times too). My life spiralled out of control. I lost my grip on my entire life. I spent several years, struggling and trying to stay alive. I was consumed and controlled by my mental health.
Then slowly, I started to regain my control. I started to use the skills I learned as a counsellor. I started to accept that my life hadn’t been the fairytale we all hope it will be. I started to accept that I got to decide if I was a victim or not. I realised that I had all the power I needed, within me, to change and to regain my control over my life and my mental health.
So, I used my existing counselling knowledge, gained so much more knowledge and qualifications. Even becoming a qualified personal trainer! To bring me to where I am now. A mental health practitioner helping women who struggle with their mental health. I adore what I do. I know that all I have been through has now enabled me to help so many women. I am grateful for the lessons that my life has taught me. As it now enables me to help people like you.
I am beyond passionate about what I do. Because I haven’t just read the books, I haven’t just taken the exams. I have lived and breathed it too. I have several mental illnesses which I manage on top of a family of 4 children and running a business. This is what sets me apart from the services offered on the NHS. This is what makes me so powerful for you to have as your supporter. Because, I am in this with you! We are in this together. I have got you.
Back in 2018 I was asked to contribute to a book full of truly inspirational women. Despite being absolutely terrified. I accepted and began the painful process of writing my chapter (chapter 17). It took some real lady balls to do what I did. The book reaching number 1 in some of the top amazon categories was worth it though. I feel so empowered to have shared a bit of my journey and to be able to call myself a published author. You can get a copy here (kindle copies are only 99p) and read not only mine, but several other truly inspiring stories from women across the UK.