Are you Sick of…

Feeling like a burden to your kids & family?

Thoughts that frighten you?

Overthinking that much that you overthink the fact you are overthinking?

Feel unloveable and hate yourself?

Having no off switch to your racing thoughts?

Feeling like you have no control over your reactions which often feel really intense?

Ready to feel SAFE?

I am a mental fitness mentor and I will help you to feel SAFE. Being safe is about feeling safe in your life, in your mind, in your family, in your home and in your future but feeling SAFE for me is all about having;

Strength

helping you to feel stronger than your mind

Acceptance

helping you to accept yourself and feel accepted with and by others

Fitness

helping you to feel mentally fit and realise how fit you are

Empowerment

helping you to feel empowered be the butterfly you’ve always been destined to be and to stop ‘just’ existing and start living.

I came across Nicola on Facebook when I saw her post and answered ‘yes’ to so many questions. For both my mental and physical health – I knew I had to explore her further. I am glad I did. Nicola is amazing, a true survivor and a warrior. She is supportive and inspiring but not afraid to kick butt when the situation demands it. The other group members are wonderful; there is no judgment, it’s a safe place to be, and yes, it can be a funny place too. Mental and physical health don’t have to be 100% serious, as I’ve discovered. Thanks to her incredibly useful and honest online support guides, I know I can turn to Nicola or her virtual self for help 24/7. Stronger Than Your Mind is unique and that’s a good thing. It’s not sterile, clinical, or ‘fluffy bunny’. It’s honest, it’s open, it’s warm and friendly. It’s serious, it’s funny, it’s light, and sometimes you’ll get a no-nonsense toe up your bottom if that’s what you need. If you think all support groups are the same, think again.

Ellen

You help so so much and are truly one of a kind at what you do and that’s what makes you so special. Thank you for NOT being every other type of therapist there is.

Chelsea

Right now you are a caterpillar.

You feel so low and trapped by your mind and like you are just existing, moving through life slowly, feeling vulnerable and at risk of prey.

Yet you are your own biggest prey. The daily torture from your thoughts and feelings is relentless, even sleep isn’t an escape for you. You look on in awe at the butterflies flying high feeling so confident, happy and free in control of their moods and emotions.

If you allow yourself to cocoon with me than the metamorphosis of your life can begin. Just like with a butterfly who once started of life as a caterpillar yet through metamorphosis they cocoon and emerge as a butterfly. To become a butterfly, you have to go through five stages, these are all contained with my Stronger Than Your Mind Academy, and you’ll find out more about the stages below. If you cocoon with me and the community of like minded mums just like you, then you will be able to embrace the love and learn the skills and strategies that you need to emerge from the cocoon as the confident, mentally fit butterfly you have always been destined to be. Who has always been right within you but just needed to follow the process to truly emerge as you.

Imagine if you finally felt like you had control? Imagine if you finally felt confident and strong enough to face all the things that right now feel so impossible to you flying so high and free like a confident in control, strong and mentally fit butterfly.

In the Stronger Than Your Mind Academy I provide you with the tools and strategies that you need in order to gain control of your moods and emotions.

You will be free from the prison your mind has kept you in for far too long now.

You will learn not only to accept yourself but also understand yourself on a level you haven’t even realised exists yet.

You will learn to see that you are worthy of love not only from others but from yourself too.

You will learn that your validation is good enough for you and stop desperately needing it from others.

You will learn how to become the real authentic you. Right now you are caterpillar crawling on the floor looking up at others in awe of how free, confident and in control they are. Yet all the while not realising that you are more than capable of flying high and free just like all the other butterflies.

The Stronger Than Your Mind Academy is a five stage self study programme that includes both group and one to one support (depending which option you choose).

Below are the five crucial stages you need to take during your cocoon with me in the Stronger Than Your Mind Academy:

1. Accepting My Mind

Characteristics –

Struggling to find that off switch.
Know your mental health isn’t right.
No control over your mind.
Worrying how your moods are going to affect your children.
Personal hygiene has become a thing of the past, never mind self care.
Feel alone and want to be part of a reassuring like minded community.
Desperate to feel confident, worthy and to be in control of your mind.

Action Steps – Created avatar & affirmations.

Milestone – I’m accepting of who I am and how I feel about myself. Plus I now know how I want to improve to feel confident and in control.

2. Understanding My Mind

Characteristics –

You don’t want to just ‘exist’ anymore.
Tired of feeling low all the time & putting so much pressure on yourself.
Want your own validation to be good enough.
Time to recognise unwanted and unhelpful thought patterns. To be aware of your warning signs.
Learning how to understand and react to your thoughts and emotions.
Begun to accept who you are and maybe even past trauma. But are left feeling angry, hurt and overwhelmed by it all.
You want to learn why you have intrusive thoughts and how to stop them.

Action steps – Completed signs and reactions workbook. Done my intrusive thoughts statement.

Milestone – I have learned my warning signs and understand my reactions. I also understand my intrusive thoughts.

3. Reset My Mind

Characteristics –

No longer in denial or confusion about who you are and how you behave.
You know your triggers but now want to stop them controlling you.
More self-aware now but want to improve how you speak to yourself.
Are more open with those around you now, but want to build on making these relationships more stable.
Recognise where boundaries need to be drawn but struggle implementing them.
Feel out of depth knowing there is a lot to change now you’re ready to live life for you. But how and where do you make those changes?

Action steps – Completed mood key and Shared it inside the members area too.

Milestone – Feeling confident and ready to live life knowing what changes I need to implement.

4. Conditioning My Mind

Characteristics –

You’ve built up a wealth of tools and strategies to help with your mental health.
But Now you lack consistency.
Feeling like you have taken 10 steps back or got knocked over when you were doing so well.
Recognising that you only use the tools after a trigger or you are struggling.
You want to work more to use them before or to prevent triggers and set backs.
You want to go deeper with your new found self worth you now want to love who you are not just appreciate it and accept it.
Feel ready to create a daily routine to help you consistently stay in control of your moods and emotions.

Action steps – I have a daily/weekly routine of action steps.

Milestone – I feel confident & in control of set backs. I love who I am and am confident about my future.

5. Stronger Than My Mind

Characteristics –

Feeling confident about your future and recognise how far you have come.
Recognise that working on yourself consistently is crucial to achieve mental stability.
You carry yourself with your head held high, confident in who you are.
You want to continue to build on the foundations you’ve laid knowing your new strength and worth.
You are in control of your moods and emotions ready to keep working on the foundations and digging deeper each time.

Action steps – monthly review and dig deeper to maintain control.

Milestone – I am confident and loving living life. I am in control of my moods and emotions.

Are you ready to become a butterfly?

So what have you got to lose by becoming a butterfly? You have heard yourself in so many of those characteristics right?

I totally get that sense of fear though. I really do, because accepting that you need to do this a huge first step. But also there are more fears to overcome!

Such as one I said so often, “but I can’t go there, if I do it will send me over the edge.” This is how I used to feel about dealing with my mental health. So I totally get that fear. It’s overwhelming thinking of it, let alone speaking about it and bringing it to the surface. But that is what I am here for, to stop you from being trapped in this fear and overwhelmed. To help give you that safe, understanding space to trust me and open up. Because you know I will support you and guide you. Giving you the tools and strategies you need to feel secure in your life. To feel in control of your moods and emotions. To feel like you are a role model to your children. To stop just existing and start living.

I also completely relate to the fear of not wanting to be the same person, you don’t want to no longer be the mama your kids love right? You are right to feel scared and anxious about changing; change is scary. But do you trust that your kids love you unconditionally, the way you love them? Even though your kids traits and personality have changed and will continue to change as they grow. Your love for them only ever grows, as they do. Will having a mama who feels accepted, understood, secure and confident benefit your kids? Will it allow your kids to get even more of the mama they already love so deeply?

It’s an investment I get that, and you might be thinking, I can’t afford it. You only can’t afford what you don’t want. It is harsh but it is true. We afford what we prioritise. I can’t afford a £500 bag means, I can afford a £5 bag that enables me to spend my money on other priorities, like my rent. Yes there are times when we are in debt, I’ve been there, and we prioritise. What is your true priority right now? I am in no way saying get into debt for this academy, but I am saying look at what your priorities are where your money is currently going and what re evaluating those priorities could do for you. What would feeling in control of your moods and emotions enable you to do? What would not feeling like a burden to your kids enable you to be free to do? Where do these answers lie in your list of priorities.

Butterfly or Butterfly VIP?

I am so excited to go on this transformation with you.

There are two plans within the Stronger Than Your Mind Academy. A butterfly, or a butterfly VIP? The crucial difference is that the VIP plan contains weekly one to one support sessions with me.

Find out more about each plan below and lets get you started on the pathway to you becoming stronger than your mind.

Butterfly

This plan gets you access to the full five stage programme. It also gets you access to the butterflies Facebook support group, where we are a community of like minded mums supporting each other to becoming stronger than our minds.

In the community there is so much opportunity to ask any questions and reach out for some additional support both from me and the community members. There are live Q&A sessions run by me, guest speakers and additional materials from me delivered via monthly theme calls.

When you join today, you secure that price for the lifetime of your membership, the price will never increase (unless you leave and when you come to return at a later date the price has risen). When you sign up you do commit to a minimum of three months membership and that is to make sure you get the maximum benefit out of the academy.

So, lets get you signed up right now to becoming a butterfly, for £46 a month you will get access to:

The Stronger Than Your Mind Academy
Butterflies Facebook community group
Live Q&A calls
Live monthly group theme calls
Guest experts delivering additional training (after you have completed all 5 units)
Accountability and support

£46 per month

VIP Butterfly

You are serious about taking control of your moods and emotions. But you feel like you need more support? More personalised and targeted support?

A VIP Butterfly combines the self study materials within the Stronger Than Your Mind Academy as well as 12 weeks of one to one support sessions with me. So we can go more in-depth and discuss whatever comes up for you in a more personalised way. Plus you make a saving of £268 compared to having 12 weeks worth of one to one sessions alone.

So, lets get you signed up right now to becoming a butterfly VIP, for £290 a month you will get access to:

The Stronger Than Your Mind Academy
12 one to one 1 hour therapy sessions with me (saving £268 compared to one to one support sessions booked separately).
Butterflies Facebook community group
Live Q&A calls
Live monthly group theme calls
Guest experts delivering additional trainings (after you have completed all 5 units)
Accountability and support

Then after 12 weeks you will pay £46 per month for your continued access to the Stronger Than Your Mind Academy.

£290 per month for 12 weeks then £46 per month

What my butterflies say about me

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Hi, I’m Nix

It has become my mission in life to not only eat as much pizza as possible, but to stop mamas from feeling trapped in their mind. To show them they can stop just existing and actually start living again.

I am a mama of 4 myself and have experienced what it is like to not want to exist anymore. I had already qualified as a counsellor many moons before my own struggles. I had intended to use my qualification, coupled with a legal degree, to join the police and be a family liaison officer. Working with sexual health victims, especially children. But towards the end of obtaining my law degree I had a complete mental breakdown and attempted to take my own life.

Now I am using my past pains to fuel my passion. To not only have the knowledge of counselling but to have lived and breathed a life with mental illnesses too. I found my crutch in exercise and went on to study personal training, so I can add this to my portfolio of skills. I am armed and ready to help save the ones who think they are beyond saving anymore. I am here to be the light in your darkness. You can find out even more about me and go more in depth to my story here